Hospice
It’s not just for old folks
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Hospice isn’t just for terminally ill old people…
“Hospice gave us the gift of time.”—Marie, Harvey’s Mom & Owner of Genuine Connections Psychotherapy
Hospice offers a WIDE range of FREE and low-cost services for the entire community–not just for old folks who are dying.
As the parent of a chronically ill and medically fragile child, it was SCARY when the hospital team at Johns Hopkins Pediatric Intensive Care Unit in Baltimore started mentioning, “quality of life,” “we’ve done all we can do” and “hospice” during our last staycation in the summer of 2015.
My family and I were DISTRAUGHT at the idea that we were “giving up” on our four year old warrior, Harvey, by signing up for the program that meant death was imminent–-hospice. Pediatric hospice.
I didn’t even know pediatric hospice was a “thing.”
As we learned more about hospice, specifically pediatric hospice, we heard over and over that “hospice isn’t just for old people” and “going on hospice doesn’t always mean someone is about to die.” Pediatric hospice was different such that it was designed to be flexible and provided much needed support for families going through the hardest time in their lives. Pediatric hospice patients were allowed to bounce on and off hospice as their medical supports dictated and, should the child find the road to recovery, they could even graduate from hospice altogether.
What?! I had never considered that a hospice patient could exit hospice in any way other than by death. I was hopeful.
And just like that, hospice morphed from SCARY to SANCTUARY.
Sanctuary?
“Hospice is for the sickest of the sick…how can you say it’s sanctuary?”
Valid point. My experience with hospice challenged prior beliefs I held of what hospice and end-of-life-care was or what it could be. The Hospice of the Chesapeake team stepped into our lives when we were running low on all of our resources–except love. We all understood that we were running out of time. And that’s exactly what hospice gifted us.
Hospice gave us the gift of time.
In my opinion (one I share with many of you, I’m sure), time is the most precious gift anyone can give or receive. The hospice team gave us the gift of time when they took over medication management of all of Harvey’s medications. That service alone saved us hours spent on phone calls to chase down specialty medications that were routinely out-of-stock and needed prior authorizations due to their cost and level of specialty.
Hospice gave us the gift of time and supported a reduced-stress environment when they FULLY FUNDED Harvey’s many specialty medications. They covered ALL of the copays and out-of-pocket costs for life-saving medicine that Harvey required several times a day, every day. Not to mention, they saved us from the headache and stress of driving to specialty pharmacies after work or on the weekends. Sometimes we had to drive HOURS to get medications that Harvey needed. Not anymore.
Hospice gifted us time again when our assigned nurse would COME TO THE HOUSE for blood draws. Many of Harvey’s medications were toxic if taken too long or at too high a dose. However, he needed high doses to treat his rare seizure disorder, Lennox-Gastuat Syndrome. Before hospice, we spent hours each month driving to specialty pediatric phlebotomy labs so that medication levels could be monitored. After hospice, hours upon hours of city traffic were no longer on regular rotation. Instead, a gentle and kind nurse came to our house.
Hospice gave us the gift of connection.
Hospice gifted us time and connection when our assigned Social Worker brought materials to our house to create meaningful memories with Harvey. One of my most treasured possessions is the Brothers footprint canvas shown in the photo below. A sweet and tangible momento of a brotherly bond. Our Social Worker began the “Make a Wish” process with us but we sadly did not get to complete the process before Harvey’s death.
The pediatric hospice team stepped in when we were running low on resources—all of them, except love. They worked hard to reduce demands made on us—the demands that took so much time—so that we could spend whatever time we had left together. With less stress and simple joys. It was most definitely, sanctuary.
Sadly, our journey with the pediatric hospice program was brief. Harvey did not find the road to recovery and was not exited out of services because he got better. Harvey died at home on September 12, 2015. Two months after joining the hospice family, Harvey left this world for some place beyond.
We are forever grateful for the quality time we had with Harvey in those last tender months. We realized though, that our journey with hospice had only just begun.
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Spoons were Harvey’s favorite toy. He could easily grab them and bang them on whatever was in reach. It was one of his favorite ways to communicate and have fun. After his death, several family members honored this memory with tattoos of Harvey’s favorite spoon.
One of my most treasured possessions is the Brothers footprint canvas shown in the photo alter photo. It serves as a sweet and tangible momento of a brotherly bond.
Hospice Resources in Maryland
This section highlights upcoming events offered by Hospice of the Chesapeake. HOC serves Anne Arundel, Prince George’s, Charles and Calvert counties in Maryland. HOC is a medicare certified non-profit organization that relies heavily on grants, donations and benefactors to fund their children’s programming. By covering costs that insurance would not, that funding is what gave my family the gift of time with Harvey. Their non-profit model and our experience called me to continue my relationship with hospice well after Harvey’s death. I knew that when I was ready, I wanted to give back and be part of their mission.
Included in hospice programming and primarily donation funded are bereavement supports ACROSS THE LIFESPAN. That’s right, hospice offers grief support for the ENTIRE FAMILY and continues to support families after the death of their loved one. As a way to honor Harvey and my own grief journey, I volunteer in my role as Harvey’s Mom with the children’s programs. It is no accident (thanks Harvey) that I am also professionally qualified, should my expertise be in need by the HOC team.
If you’d like to attend a group or event offered by hospice, check out their CURRENT PROGRAMMING.
I regularly support several hospice programs and events. Those events are listed below.
CAMP NABI
Camp Nabi is An Overnight Grief Camp for Children & Teens facilitated by Hospice of the Chesapeake.
In 2023, I volunteered as a “Big Buddy” for TWO grieving teenagers for the entire weekend. In 2024, I was asked to facilitate healing activities for littles ages 9-10. Both experiences were awe-inspiring. I share some reflections HERE.
If you are looking for a worthy cause to support, Camp Nabi is it.
Participation as a volunteer is life changing—so much so that some volunteers have been returning to camp for 20+ years. A few volunteers even attended camp as a child for their own grief and now participate as adults.
The ripple continues.
It’s that amazing.
Learn about grief
& Camp Nabi
straight from the kids.
Upcoming Hospice of the Chesapeake Events
Co-Facilitated or Supported by Marie
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Child Loss Monthly Support Group
Facilitated by Marie
Monthly opportunities for grief support specifically for individuals and families (18yrs +) grieving the death of a child.
In addition to honoring losses by sharing personal stories, participants will learn about David Kessler's Six Needs of the Grieving and will have the option to participate in:
🦋 group mindfulness activities
🦋 nature-informed activities
🦋 expressive arts & crafts
🦋 skill sharing and practice
The Chesapeake Life Center
John & Cathy Belcher Campus
90 Ritchie Highway
Pasadena, Maryland 21122January 13, February 10, March 17
FREE
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Stepping Stones: A 4-Week Grief Support Group for Children & Teens (6-18yrs)
Supported by Marie
This group is for bereaved children and teens whose loss occurred within the last 12 months.
The group will focus on normalizing grief reactions, teaching coping skills and providing opportunities to remember the loved ones that have died.
Groups may be divided by age and based on enrollment.
The Chesapeake Life Center
John & Cathy Belcher Campus
90 Ritchie Highway
Pasadena, Maryland 21122Tuesdays, on-going
6:00 pm - 7:30 pm
$10 per group -
Parenting While Grieving: Quarterly Workshop
Facilitated by Marie
Gather with your peers for a two-hour event to both provide and receive support from others who understand the unique challenge of parenting while grieving.
In addition to honoring losses by sharing personal stories, participants will learn about David Kessler's "Six Needs of the Grieving" and will have the option to participate in:
💜 group mindfulness activities
💜 nature-informed activities
💜 expressive arts & crafts
💜 skill sharing/practice and more!
HOC Pasadena Campus
Saturday, January 25th
10am to 12noon
$10
***Concurrent programming for children 6-18yrs TBA so that parents can attend even without childcare.
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All Events Require Prior Registration with Hospice
To learn more or register:
888.501.7077
Griefinfo@chesapeakelifecenter.org
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Camp Nabi: An Overnight Grief Camp for Children & Teens (6-18 yrs)
Thank you, participants!
APPLY BY JULY 15TH
Join us for a full weekend overnight camp experience for children who have experienced the death of a loved one.
With a full team of counselors and trained volunteers, campers will participate in activities focused on memorializing their loved ones, learning coping skills in small groups, and using integrative arts to help kids express their grief. Of course, this also will include fun camp activities, like swimming, field games, ropes course, and more.
Arlington Echo Outdoor Education Center in Millersville, Maryland
August 7-11, 2024
$100*
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Fashion for the Cause: An evening of runway fashion, food, cocktails & revelry all for a great cause.
Thank you, donors & participants. This even helped raise over $240,000 for Hospice Children’s Programming
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Over a dozen local community models will display new fashions from area stores including some on Main Street and at Annapolis Towne Centre. Area restaurants and food trucks will offer samples of their menus.
This event raises essential funds which directly support Hospice of the Chesapeake’s Chesapeake Kids Program.
Chesapeake Kids is a comprehensive program designed to support children and their families living with advanced and life-limiting illnesses in their child, as well as children living with the grief of losing a loved one due to illness.
The Fluegel Navy Alumni Center 301 King George St
Annapolis, MD 21402Speaker, Marie—Harvey’s Mom, Hospice Volunteer & Grief Therapist
Friday, June 7th 2024
6pm to 9pm
Tickets available thru Hospice
$i50 each until Thursday, May 23
$175 each starting Friday, May 24 -
Nature Informed Grief Therapy Workshop for Children & Teens (6-18 yrs)
Thank you, participants!
*****
Please have participants arrive ready to spend time outside and get dirty! This is an opportunity for kids and teens to connect with each other and the natural world to find support in their grief process.
HOC Pasadena Campus
Facilitated by Marie, LCPC & Alicia, LMSW of Hospice
Saturday, April 27, 2024
1:00 pm - 3:00 pm
$10
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Stepping Stones: A 4-Week Grief Support Group for Children & Teens (6-18 rs)
Thank you, participants!
*****
This group is for newly bereaved children and teens whose loss occurred within the last 12 months.
The group will focus on normalizing grief reactions, teaching coping skills and providing opportunities to remember the loved ones that have died.
Groups will be divided by age and grade level based on enrollment.
HOC Pasadena Campus
May 7, 14, 21, 28
6:00 pm - 7:30 pm
$40